Weekly Wins: I Refused to Feel Guilty

As a person with a lot of anxiety, low self-esteem, and a propensity toward overthinking everything always, I feel guilty a lot. A lot a lot. I truly believe that this guilt is counterproductive and I don’t believe it’s almost ever helpful. So I try not to feel it. This is easier said than done. But this week I succeeded. I refused to feel guilty.

Yup, I just flat out refused to feel guilty.

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Hubby was out of town for a few days and as often happens, I was struggling to keep it together. So I took Hubby’s advice, got a babysitter, ran some errands I needed to run for myself (for once), and then I got my nails done.

I was a little late getting back home because the expensive, yet marvelously relaxing and delicious-smelling mani/pedi took longer than expected. But it was so worth it and afterward I was nice and relaxed. I seriously was. It was incredible.

Then the guilt started to creep in.

I started to fall into the familiar habit of feeling guilty for taking time to myself and feeling bad that I was going to be a little late getting home. But I didn’t want to ruin my relaxed feeling.

So I made a conscious decision to NOT feel guilty.

It was extremely freeing.

I felt lighter. I felt happy. And the lack of guilt didn’t even have any negative side-effects. No one was mad at me for being late. No one reprimanded me for taking time to myself or spending too much money. I was guilt-free and completely relaxed about it. And what is more, I was amazed that I even had this choice to begin with.

I had a choice.

Feeling excessive guilt might be a knee-jerk reaction and a deeply ingrained habit. But I can still choose not to entertain the guilt, not to let it take over and ruin my happiness.

This was a revelation to me because I often try to assuage my guilt and think of reasons I shouldn’t have to feel guilty, but that never works. There are always reasons i could hate myself and feel like a failure. But this time I simply refused to think about it any further. I just didn’t want to. I took a few deep breaths, turned up the music in the car, and thought about something else. Forget the guilt. I wanted to feel peace, and I did.

This week I made the decision not to feel guilty. I just hope I can keep it up, because that guilt will ruin your life, I tell you. But it’s good to know I can make that choice now, and in the future.

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1 thought on “Weekly Wins: I Refused to Feel Guilty

  1. I think if you look at it honestly, you can tell pretty easily whether you’re feeling guilty for a valid reason or not. If it isn’t, forget about it; if it is, do something about it. Beating yourself up beyond that serves no purpose. Great post.

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